Around the World in 180 Days

A journey across the Atlantic and into matrimony

only for those with True Grit August 26, 2009

Filed under: the process — rhet @ 10:34 pm
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137 days

Well folks, it’s been a stressful couple of weeks but despite some costly (both financial and emotional) setbacks, I think we’re just about back on track.

The scoop: my visa did not come in time for our September 2nd departure date (and as of now, has still yet to arrive) so the boy is now on the other side of the pond without me which sucks big time. I missed out on spending time with his family, going to London and finally meeting his best man.

But alas, the new plan is for me to fly out on September 16th, provided the British Consulate sees fit to give me my passport back by then with the necessary paperwork. In short, we’re hoping, praying, meditating, crossing our fingers toes and eyes that it comes this week so we don’t have to drop another $400 on changing my flight.

I NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS SMALL CONSERVATIVE TOWN, out of my parents house, out of a temporary living situation and start my new life with the boy already!! This living in limbo is driving me absolutely bonkers if you haven’t noticed.

The things keeping me from going totally whacko taco off the deep end? Books mostly. Thank god for the trip to Barnes and Nobles we made a few days before the boy left. I picked up a buy two get one free Hunter S. Thompson deal and the OffBeat Bride book. (Side note, has anyone else had a ‘dirty chai’ aka chai tea with a shot of espresso? i had my first at B&N–my oh my was it delicious!)

Speaking of things I’ve newly become a fan of, I made my first purchases at Sephora yesterday. My maid of honor and i spent quit a bit of time in there, testing things out and looking for the perfect shades of this or that and it was totally worth it. I tested out my new goodies as soon as I came home and I do believe i’ve got my wedding look down! Hooray, another thing checked off the list. So psyched about having found a red lipstick i can wear that matches the tones of my face. Now how to keep it off the boys face when we say I do..hmmm…


What’s In a Name? August 5, 2009

Filed under: us,wholy matrimony — rhet @ 9:39 pm

158 days

I woke up to a few different blog posts addressing the issue of to change or not to change one’s last name after getting married in my rss feeds this morning (specifically Broke-Ass-Bride and OffBeatBride) so I thought I’d throw in my two cents.

I decided as far back as I remember considering it, to keep my last name when I would get married. It’s not really that I think my name is particularly awesome, its not ‘pretty’ sounding exactly as its German but it is pretty much nickname proof, and one of the main things that connects the huge group of people that is my family.

That was until my senior year of high school when I had to change my last name. I won’t go into the details as to why it was necessary to do so, but I was not happy. Not only did I loose the last name that tied me to my family, I was now stuck with a name that was doomed to be be mispronounced as a word that means ‘poop’. Fantastic! It also bothered me because I did not exactly get along with the family whose name I had taken and wasn’t thrilled to have their name instead of the one I’d grown up with.

A few years after the name change, I met my future husband and upon learning of his awesome last name, decided the perfect solution was to take his last name! Only it wouldnt be out of tradition or ownership (which is kind of how I view it), it’d just be a good excuse to steal his cool name. Plus it works really well with my first name.

Though, as I write this, I’m wondering if maybe I should take my old last name back instead? Is that legal in Scotland? Or maybe I should take it and his last name too? Hmmm decisions, decisions..


Change is not a process for the impatient August 2, 2009

Filed under: the process — rhet @ 3:45 pm

161 days


So what was the actual visa process like once I’d figured out which visa I’d be applying for and who’d help me with it you ask?

Well, before even taking my ‘case’, I talked to an American from Global Visas in their Minnesota who asked me a bunch of questions about my situation and what I intended to do. They told me they do not take cases they don’t think they can win and want to make sure I have a solid chance which, once approved, was reassuring to know.

Next, another phone consultation was scheduled, this time with my British advisor. She was nice enough, answered my questions about time frames (I officially started the visa process in May, and am hoping to be out of the country by the beginning of September) and gave me a checklist of documents I needed to procure to complete my application.

Most of it was pretty basic stuff that I had expected ie birth certificate, proof of relationship, housing, etc. In fact,  I was extremely lucky to have found out about needing to have proof of the relationship very early because I had spent at least a year keeping every single useful bit of memorabilia from our travels and time together in a shoebox. The thing that threw me off was the proof of intent to marry. Our wedding was just under a year away at this point and we’d planned on getting the visa stuff out of the way before doing too much wedding organization.  However, this proof of intent to marry stuff meant we had to get invitations printed, the wedding location booked and have an officiant for the ceremony lined up asap.  All while I was in the US and the boy was trying to do finals and end of term projects. Eeek.

We were both  pretty stressed out about having to get pretty much the three most important aspects of a wedding sorted on such a deadline but I have to admit, I was more than a little glad to have a valid excuse to make the boy focus on wedding planning.

I’m a little evil, I know.