Around the World in 180 Days

A journey across the Atlantic and into matrimony

Last Leg January 8, 2010

Filed under: daily life,wholy matrimony — rhet @ 1:13 am

a fountain in the park by Park Circus covered in a fresh layer of snow

Well, the boy is off drinking one of his last single nights away while I’ve just said goodnight to my jetlagged family.

It’s been quite a hectic and stressful day so while I probably should be taking advantage of having an apartment to myself to get more wedding things done, I’m catching up on t he tv I’ve missed out on in the last couple days. Zoning out. Wedding brain off.  Deep relaxing sigh.

Hopefully I’ll be able to recap my British Christmas experience after all this craziness dies down!


It’s the Final Countdooown December 23, 2009

Filed under: wholy matrimony — rhet @ 10:54 am

Thought I put this picture up ages ago, guess not! The dress with tulle underskirt and faux-fur stole

I won’t be wearing the faux-fur stole during the ceremony but I love the thing! The little hanging ball/tassles are detachable though  and I can’t decide if i want to leave them or get a brooch instead..hmmm..

And with 17 days left till go time, the to do list is frightfully short and on one hand I feel like we kick ass for not having tons of last minute things to do. But on the other hand I feel like I must be forgetting lots of important things and deluding myself into a false sense of security…I’m the master procrastinator, how did this happen??

The stuff left is however, quite important but should be easy enough to accomplish in the week after Christmas once we return to Glasgow. Here’s what we got:

1. Drop off my engagement ring at the jewellers for polishing, pick up that and my wedding band as soon as its ready

2. Pick up the boy’s suit from the tailors

3. Decide on where to have the rehearsal diner (we did leave this one a bit late but seeing as it’ll be a small group, shouldn’t be a problem)

4. Write our vows and put finishing touches on the ceremony

5. Do a practice run with my hair/makeup

6. Meet with the events coordinator for final decisions on chair arrangement etc.

7. Find some tea pots to borrow

8. Work out final details with the sound guys

9. Pick up wedding schedule from the registrar

10. Finish off reception playlist/pick songs for ceremony

And thats about it! Thankfully we finished our Christmas shopping and present wrapping a couple of days ago as well, so the next week or so should be fairly relaxing.

The flaws of having a wedding so close to the holidays are becoming glaringly obvious however.  Not being able to keep away  from sweets has always been my downfall and now it’s near impossible, especially since we’re staying with the boy’s parents and I can’t just refuse to keep them in the house to avoid temptation like we normally would.  Being out of Glasgow also means no access to our gym. Thank god for Spanx!

And speaking of Spanx, their arrival in the post marked the completion of my wedding outfit! I have to say the hardest piece to track down was definitely a bra that worked with my dress.  I needed something strapless that would keep my…lets say volumptuous..bangers in check, low cut in the back, what they call ‘plunging’ aka won’t show when worn with a deep v-neck dress, and doesnt ride up my armpits (being short gives you that problem). And of course after endless hours of shopping around Glasgow and searching for this mecca of a bra, I end up ordering one I’d tried on at David’s Bridal in the States this past summer! Go figure.


Please, do keep it dignified December 12, 2009

Filed under: travel,wholy matrimony — rhet @ 10:41 am

We’re on the train down to London! My first time at the nations capital and also my first time meeting the boys best man! just in time too, seeing as the wedding is just round the corner..

We’ve been so busy wrapping up loose ends, that this is the first chunk of time I’ve had in a while with no tasks to be accomplished!

The biggest concern of late has been writing the ceremony, so reading this comic the other day was perfect timing:

The boy and I aren’t huge gamers but we are hoping to have similarly funny yet still cute vows.

I came across the Dr. Seuss vows ages ago and have been trying to talk him into using those, though without much success. They’re definitlt worth a read if you havent come across them yet:

Pastor: Will you answer me right now
These questions, as your wedding vow?

Groom: Yes, I will answer right now
Your questions as my wedding vow.

Pastor: Will you take her as your wife?
Will you love her all your life?

Groom: Yes, I take her as my wife,
Yes, I’ll love her all my life.

Pastor: Will you have, and also hold
Just as you have at this time told?

Groom: Yes, I will have, and I will hold,
Just as I have at this time told,
Yes, I will love her all my life
As I now take her as my wife.

Pastor: Will you love through good and bad?
Whether you’re happy or sad?

Groom: Yes, I’ll love through good and bad,
Whether we’re happy or sad,
Yes, I will have and I will hold
Just as I have already told,
Yes, I will love her all my life,
Yes, I will take her as my wife!

Pastor: Will you love her if you’re rich?
Or if you’re poor, and in a ditch?

Groom: Yes, I’ll love her if we’re rich,
And I will love her in a ditch,
I’ll love her through good times and bad,
Whether we are happy or sad,
Yes, I will have, and I will hold
(I could have sworn this has been told!)
I promise to love all my life
This woman, as my lawful wife!

Pastor: Will you love her when you’re fit,
And also when you’re feeling sick?

Groom: Yes, I’ll love her when we’re fit,
And when we’re hurt, and when we’re sick,
And I will love her when we’re rich
And I will love her in a ditch
And I will love through good and bad,
And I will love when glad or sad,
And I will have, and I will hold
Ten years from now a thousandfold,
Yes, I will love for my whole life
This lovely woman as my wife!

Pastor: Will you love with all your heart?
Will you love till death you part?

Groom: Yes, I’ll love with all my heart
From now until death do us part,
And I will love her when we’re rich,
And when we’re broke and in a ditch,
And when we’re fit, and when we’re sick,
(Oh, CAN’T we get this finished quick?)
And I will love through good and bad,
And I will love when glad or sad,
And I will have, and I will hold,
And if I might now be so bold,
I’ll love her my entire life,
Yes, I WILL take her as my wife!

Pastor: Then if you’ll take her as your wife,
And if you’ll love her all your life,
And if you’ll have, and if you’ll hold,
From now until the stars grow cold,
And if you’ll love through good and bad,
And whether you’re happy or sad,
And love in sickness, and in health,
And when you’re poor, and when in wealth,
And if you’ll love with all your heart,
From now until death do you part,
Yes, if you’ll love her through and through,
Please answer with these words:

Pastor and Groom: I DO!

Pastor: You’re married now! So kiss the bride,
But please, do keep it dignified.

I’ll admit they’re a bit long and overly repetitive, but I think it would be really fun to use if it were trimmed down a bit.

Though if all the wedding planning were up to just me the whole day would be a silly, lighthearted affair!


Won’t Be Long Now November 25, 2009

Filed under: wholy matrimony — rhet @ 1:44 pm

Man sitting under metal tree in Manchester

lovely countryside somewhere between Manchester and Glasgow from the train


Wow. 45 Days till the wedding! If you subtract the 2 weeks or so the boy and I will be spending with his parents in Manchester (and will get nothing done), that leaves about 3 weeks of time in Glasgow to get our stuff together!

Since switching to ‘in to do list we trust’ method, we’ve been getting lots done but theres still quite a bit left. Luckily, two major items fell into place easier than we expected. We found pretty much all of our chintzy mismatched teacups at one charity shop (and boy are they cute..I’m kind of hoping people don’t take them home so I can keep them). I was expecting to have to trawl around for days finding them all.

And after a very disheartening shopping trip through all the major stores selling suits in Glasgow, we discovered that any suit the boy even remotely liked was way out of our budget. Who wants to feel like they’re in a mediocre outfit on their wedding day? I certainly didnt want him to feel like that so I suggested we have a poke around ebay and huzzah!! a £375 Ted Baker suit (the boy loves TB) in excellent condition for £100. We got it in the mail a few days later and it fits, and is indeed in fantastic condition. Fantastic.

After disovering that there was no way an off the shelf ring would fit with mine because of the unique shape and twists in the metal, we met up with the jewelIers who made it got a ring custom made to fit mine (its a unique shape with twists in the band) and I’d love to be able to show it to you and wear it but I’ll just have to wait..won’t be long now folks.

So thats pretty much all the major items slowly working themselves into place..the last really important thing on the list is writing the ceremony. Though I have to admit I’ve been putting it off because its such a daunting task and I rarely have large chunks of time to work on it. Clearly, with the days counting down I need to get on it!!


Show and Tell! October 1, 2009

Filed under: the process,wholy matrimony — rhet @ 8:33 pm

99 days

I know the blog has been a bit text-heavy as of late which I fully plan to remedy when I get to the UK and actually start experiencing new things besides previously unheard of stress levels. But for now, I’ll tide you over, dear readers, with some pictures of things I’ve been raving about for ages. My wedding dress and the invites!

here she be!

here she be!

Excuse the blurry faces of my sister and I, this girl likes her internet anonymity (don’t ask me why I felt the need to blur the back of my cousin’s head). Also, I’ve now got a big poofy white crinoline peticoat to go under it, to give it a big more drama and shape. Better non-cellphone pictures of that to come!

The invitations…

invites, rsvp card and envelopes

invites, rsvp card and envelopes


Just try to guess our names, I dare ya! (Both of them are fairly unusual so really, good luck)

I love the silver strands in the paper and the fact that its a bit pulpy and unrefined. The photo doesnt do the paper justice for sure.


How awesome is it that the rsvp looks like a luggage tag? Thats right. Pretty effin awesome.


It’s Official, its Harder for Men to Organise a Wedding September 30, 2009

Filed under: wholy matrimony — the boy @ 9:10 pm

You often hear complaints of wives to be having uninterested and unhelpful future husbands when it comes to organising a wedding. This may well be true, however it seems that should these men take an interest, perhaps try and organise a few parts of the wedding or in fact do pretty much anything with the word wedding attached will hit one common major pitfall.

So what is it? It’s fairly simple, they don’t really want to talk to you. Who doesn’t want to talk to you? Pretty much anyone, the venue, the registrar, the cake decorator, they’re all interested in talking to one person and that person really isn’t you.  As an example, we’ve chosen a beautiful venue which I checked out many months ago, I organised the place, signed for it, paid for it, gave them my contact details. But who do the correspondence letters always come addressed to? My fiancee of course, because clearly having been completely in control of the situation I am now redundant because there’s a woman they can contact.

This behaviour is very common in the wedding industry and something I’m starting to tire of, why make extra obstacles for the rare man who actually wants to help with his own wedding? You never know, he might actually be competent at it.


Don’t Tell the Bride September 16, 2009

Filed under: wholy matrimony — the boy @ 4:32 pm

Shhhhhhh! No I’m kidding, I’m not foolish enough to write on our shared blog about something the girl shouldn’t know.

Instead I’m writing about something that caught my attention recently and quite frankly, has bugged me ever since. For those that don’t know, in the UK there’s a television channel called BBC Three. Nothing wrong with that, I like the BBC and quite a few shows that are on that specific channel, but what I can’t stand is a show based on the assumption that men (or women) are useless.

The show called “Don’t Tell the Bride” is based on the principle that men sit back and do nothing whilst women plan every last detail of the wedding. The BBC offers to pay for their wedding (up to a limit of course) but with just one rule, the man has to plan the entire wedding, because of course, he must be useless at such a thing and therefore the whole thing will be a train wreck! Brilliant TV carnage must surely ensue!

Now I understand that men traditionally are less involved in weddings than women, but thats often because we aren’t exactly encouraged to participate. “It’s all about her!” is often quoted at me by men and women alike to which thankfully, the girl and I laugh and tell them it’s not so. Men are perfectly capable of planning a great wedding, as the show eventually goes on to usually prove, however the constant jabs at the husband to be’s ability to organise such an event make this program about as progressive as raising your daughter to believe her only choice is to be a stay at home mom.

I think the BBC execs might, in future, want to produce shows that have a little decorum and leave the trash TV to itv, because they seem so very good at it.